Time to take control and grow up :)

This evening I replied to a post on a friends facebook. And I realised that what I wrote is a huge change in my thinking that has really made a massive positive impact on this lifestyle change journey. As what is it that finally made me snap and take action over my life. How have I managed to turn around years of negative thinking, and taking on board too much of what others think. The desire for acceptance has always been such a driving factor in the decisions I made.

I guess you get to a point in your life (better now than never) where you finally manage to sift through what is important and make it a priority.

I could sit here and go "gosh I wish I had not spent the last 20 years EATING and getting FAT, what a waste of 20 years" but in actual fact, I am really loving the personal journey that my entire life has provided. We all have lessons to learn, and its good to work hard to learn lessons. They tend to be the better lessons, and ones that last. It's never too late to make a change.

And as for what I wrote on my friend's facebook to help her with her own demons.

I have spent a lifetime of comparing myself to my siblings, until recently I realised I didn't actually have to, and that as a grown up, I could make my own choices and also decide what was good for me in my life. So now, if it's not good for me, I don't engage in whatever is going on that causes me more harm than good. It's the best decision I have ever made. I have spent my whole life taking on board negativity (even though I am sure it was never intended that way, or that the comments often came out of minimal thought as to the impact or how a person might interpret the comments) it was the negative that I always took from things, the part of the message I would hang on to, I had a "Masters" in finding the negative in a situation. Now I don't have to. CHOICE is an amazing place of empowerment.

When you get to that point, you really find your heart grows. Your understanding enables healing, growth, tolerance and acceptance. You finally find your OWN IDENTITY. I have no need to compare myself to others. WOW IS THAT WHAT SELF ACTUALISATION IS!!! hahaha

What I have learnt is that you can spend a lifetime trying to seek approval from others, when in actual fact the only person that needs to approve of you IS YOU!

Its also up to YOU - to decide how you react to things, how much of an impact (positive and negative) events in your life can have.

It's great to be a grown up!